Your child 1-3 years

Crying: how to understand and calm them


When he gets hurt, when he is afraid or angry, a small child often starts crying. According to the emotion they hide, her tears do not call the same answer. The advice of the editors of Popi to understand and calm him.

He's crying because he's in pain

  • Not yet very sure on his little legs, your child has just fallen and graze his knee. At once, tears flow freely. "It's important that his parents do not rush to him with panic. They would transmit their concern, which would lead to a doubling of tears, "insists Isabelle Filliozat, psychologist, author of Au coeur des emotions of the child (eds Marabout).
  • According to this specialist, the most urgent is to distract the little wounded from his pain. For example, by having him examine his boho. In a very calm tone, you can tell him: "You have seen, it is becoming all blue! Oh, there's a little pebble in the bruise! "The ideal is to associate it with first aid to put it in the action, to show him that he is not deprived of what comes from to happen to him. It can help stick the bandage or blow on its hump. If the crying last more than a few minutes, it is because the pain persists. It is then prudent to consult a doctor.

He's crying because he's angry

  • Badaboum! The tower he was trying to build collapsed. He bursts into tears, blows into the cubes. He expresses his anger, his disappointment and his frustration with this situation that has not followed the expected course. "These tears, if they do not last too long, are not distress. On the contrary, they are repairers: thanks to them, the little child is released from the accumulated tension, "describes Isabelle Filliozat.
  • This does not mean that you have no role to play. You can put words on this event: "Oh yes, you are very disappointed because your turn has fallen!" Language is essential to nourish his emotional intelligence. Little by little, he will learn to mobilize his thinking brain (not that of emotions) to temper his emotional turbulence.

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